This Basic Package will give you everything a first-time officiant will need to do a wedding. You'll have the words, the certificates, your ordination documents, and even a parking placard for your vehicle!
This essay discusses my favorite way to officiate a wedding ceremony, starting from the consultation to the ceremony itself. There’re numerous hints and practical tips to help you to be the absolute best wedding officiant you can be. Whether it’s your very first ceremony or your twentieth, it’s always good to seek out ways to get better.
I want to clarify the important things that happen in the ceremony of a marriage (officiating weddings) so that a well-done as well as professional ceremony will be performed by the reverend, for the bride and groom.
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Whenever I show up for a consultation, I usually bring my entire ceremony binder. I do this for two reasons: First of all, if I have my binder, then I've got all the data at my fingertips to show the couple.
Secondly, I've photos throughout the binder, which I sprinkled throughout the binder, so the couples see the various pictures of me with many couples. This assures them that I am absolutely a skilled professional and then they will also see what I wear.
The manner I do the consultation is that I start off and share with them over the phone a bit about the way I go through the ceremony. I give them the details about how the wedding ceremony is broken down into separate parts and that they are welcome to decide on which of the parts they like, make the ceremony as short or long, spiritual or secular, funny or solemn as they want and therefore are also encouraged to change it to suit themselves. I also provide them a free copy of my workbook, The Ultimate Wedding and Ceremony Workbook for the 'Planning-Impaired' to aid the couple design their ceremony. All the ceremony sections are listed inside the book allowing them to decide on from and there is even a page of processional examples to aid the couple to decide on that part of the big day. The pages can be ripped out.
I personally think it easiest to have the bride and groom choose for themselves which words to be said at their ceremony. I have frequently been asked whether the couple wrote the ceremony themselves, because the ceremony so perfectly expressed who they were together. Also, by giving them a copy of the book, I'm additionally giving them a lot of planning information as well as the ability to customize the ceremony themselves. This saves me a lot of time and puts the control back into the hands of the couple.
Having the book has made my life much easy to handle because now I just explain the parts, give them the book then let them generate the ceremony that best suits them.
When I meet with the couple, I show them my binder, explain each and every of the sections, take note of the particulars of their wedding on the pre-printed worksheet and then get a deposit. (This, of course, only happens once I have answered any questions and if they’ve decided to use my services. A deposit let’s me know for sure that if the wedding becomes cancelled, or if they're not really serious, my time was not wasted, plus the workbook was paid for. The deposit also assures the couple the time-slot for their wedding date is secured.
The Wedding Itself
Throughout the service itself, I make sure be sure I have the groom’s head turned towards me until finally the his bride arrives at the beginning of the aisle runner to walk down. The groom’s not permitted to look until then. When I announce for the guests to stand up, blocking his view we all get to revel in look on a groom’s face when first he sees his bride in her dress for the first time.
I encourage the nervous couple to turn to and look at one another and take hands for the service. One indescribably important issue is: Don't forget to tell the guests to please be seated after the service has started. Or at the very least gesture.
Sign the license either directly before or just after the service then make it a point to get the signatures of the Maid of Honor and Best Man. Place it back inside the big white envelope and make sure the bride’s mother, maid of honor, or no less than 2 other people in of the wedding party are told exactly where you put it. You may choose put it in the mail on your own, of course, if it is already filled out on their end, but they are rarely ready, so I generally give it back for them to turn in themselves.
Your title is 'minister' and I usually put ‘Universal Life Church’ for question of denomination. This will make it simpler and so far, nobody has at any time had any concerns about it. Very essential: No Cross-Outs! Whatever you put is what has to to remain there, or else, you have to pay for a replacement license.
I previously would bring my own camera to each wedding I conducted to make certain I’d get a photo of me with the couple, but once you have a good collection of photos, it’s not as important. Definitely make it a point to get in a picture together with them during at the beginning of the picture-taking.
By far the most essential point of all though, is to enjoy yourself doing the wedding. Smile when you’re performing the wedding ceremony and revel in the joy of the happy couple on their most special time!